Why do men lose interest?
It's a question so many women have yet so few ever get the answer to.
A lot of the time, when a man ends up losing interest it seems to come out of nowhere, completely catching you off guard and making you wonder what you did or where things went wrong.
You might be trying to do things to make him interested in you again and reignite his interest again except the more you try to do the worse it seems to make things. This can be even more frustrating because you are putting in so much effort and he's doing nothing but acting distant, difficult and as if he doesn't care.
If you’re worried he’s losing interest but you’re not sure, this Vixen Daily quiz can help you find the answer.
To help you out, here are the common reasons a man loses interest so you can understand what's going on in your situation and hopefully find a solution to this problem.
Reason #1: He Was Not As Interested As You Thought
I am saying this so bluntly not to be rude or hurtful but rather to give you the truth so that you can really understand what could be going on.
Maybe you thought you really hit it off with this guy and felt everything was going smoothly yet rather than him reciprocate he suddenly went cold and lost interest.
A lot of the time, this happens not because you actually really hit it off… but because you really liked him and wanted something to come out of it. Because of your hopes for the situation, you figured he felt the same way, and in reality he wasn't that interested.
This is common and important to really think about. Did he ever clearly express interest by arranging a date, pursuing you and actively going out of his way to contact you?
Or was it you doing all the work? If you were the one doing all the work and the one initiating contact, it's a pretty strong indicator that he wasn't that interested to begin with. Your best bet is to realize this and move on.
Reason #2: He Is Going Through Something In His Life
Has anything major happened in his life recently that has him extremely stressed and anxious?
A death in the family? Problems with money or problems at work?
This is a very common reason for a man to seem distant and like he's pulling away when in reality it has nothing to do with you.
If a man is going through major stress in his life for one reason or another it's a good thing for you because it means he most likely hasn't lost interest in you, he's simply going through a hard time in his life… So don't worry too much and try not to take it personally.
Reason #3: The Novelty Has Worn Off
Whatever you had with him in the beginning might have been fun, exciting and fresh. But as time goes by, things begin to get stale and routine.
This is a very common thing that happens and there's nothing you did wrong or bad that caused it; it's completely normal.
What you can do is try to do something new, exciting and fresh that will add something new and fresh to the relationship dynamic.
So for example, you could try something adventurous like rock climbing or taking an art class together or even go wine tasting and just doing things that add a new sense of fun.
The point is to add something new to make the chance of him regaining interest as high as possible. As with anything in life, there is no guarantee this will work but it will give you the best chance at success.
So there you go, here are the main three reasons a man will lose interest. Don't worry about it; there's no point in fixating about someone who isn't going to be naturally interested in you.
At the end of the day, you cannot force someone to like you just because you want them to… And why would you ever want to force someone to like you anyway? You're much better off leaving yourself open to find someone who is interested in you for exactly who and how you are.