Hi Lucia,
I've been with my guy friend for 12 months now. At first he wasn't ready to go the next level, but now he is. I'm shocked and still think I'm dreaming. What brings a couple closer? Ms. Sha.
Dear Ms. Sha,
Several factors are involved in bringing two people closer together.
Once it’s been established that there is a mutual physical attraction, a mental and emotional connection also needs to build. This comes over time through doing fun activities together. You get to see how the person handles themselves in a variety of situations, both good and bad. You will either gain more respect for them and thus grow to love them (you can’t have love without respect, otherwise, it’s just lust) or you will decide they’re not for you.
To build a mental connection you need to have occasional long talks about yourselves, your lives, your hopes and dreams, your ideals, your fears, etc.
For an emotional connection to exist, there has to be a high level of trust, so that the other person can open up and discuss their feelings, without fear of being judged or having those feelings used against them.
Two people rarely arrive at the same place (mentally and emotionally) simultaneously, so my best advice would be to not try to rush things, because that rarely works.
