Hi Lucia,
Recently I started going out with a guy. He seemed very nice and I could say we both were attracted to each other. On our third date we went to his friend's birthday at a club. I had just a couple of cocktails. I felt so drunk, as never before. I don’t really remember how we left. He took me to his place, because I was in no shape to go home on my own. He saw that I felt really terrible, but he was still trying to make me want to have sex.
I understand it was hard for him to control himself in bed with me, but still I tried not to respond.
I finally started to kiss and cuddle him too.
When we were about to make love, I realized he didn’t have a condom. I stood up and started to put my clothes on. I told him that I don’t know who he sleeps and I didn’t want to risk myself or get pregnant. I asked him for a car service number or where I can take a train. He looked so mad, he didn’t even say bye to me. He just showed me directions while still lying in bed.
On my way to a train, he texted me that he no longer wants to be in touch with me and wants his number deleted. He promised to do the same.
I don’t know if it was right to refuse him last minute and if I need to just leave it as it is. Julia
Hi Julia,
It sounds like you may have had something put in your drink. Thank God you had the clarity of mind to not have sex without a condom. This guy doesn’t give a damn about you. Even though you were in no shape to go home, he still tried to have sex with you.
You can refuse a guy anytime, last minute or not.
He probably won’t like it, but that’s his problem. If he’s a gentleman, he accepts it gracefully. If he’s a jerk, then he behaves like the guy you described.
If he hadn’t suggested that you delete him from your life, I was certainly going to advise you to do it. Leave it as is and move on!
