Hi Lucia,
I met a guy at a party and gave him my number. It took him a week to call me. Does that mean he’s not really interested? Dorothy
Hi Dorothy,
It could actually go either way.
Guys have been taught by "experts" that they should wait as long as possible (minimum 3 days) to call someone they've just me. They're told that they will stand out from all the other guys who usually call within a day or two and the woman will be more intrigued.
Well, I don’t agree. I think there are other ways to stand out. When a guy waits that long, it sends out a big smoke signal that he’s interested but he’s playing games. Fine, let the games begin.
Here’s how you handle this situation. You met John at a party and he finally calls/texts after a week. This is how the conversation should go:
John: Hi, it’s John.
You: …(pause) John?
John: Yeah! We met at Chris’s party last Friday.
You: Oh, you’re the veterinarian!
John: No, I’m the lawyer.
You:…(pause) Oh, I remember now. Hi. How are you!
This way, you let him think you weren’t sitting around wondering why he was taking so long to call. See how it can backfire on him if you handle it this way?
There is of course always the possibility that he was undecided about whether to call and finally decided to try it. The other possibility is that he is casually seeing someone else and wrestled with the idea of whether he should call or not.
Some people may say maybe he was busy. I don't buy it. If a guy is really interested, he won't be able to stop himself from reaching out sooner rather than later. Everyone has time to send a quick text at the very least.
Any way you look at it, when a guy waits too long to call, it’s rarely a good sign. If he was intrigued with you, he’d want to speak to you and see you as soon as possible. Proceed with caution.
