When Will He Be Over His Ex?
Hi Lucia, I have been dating a guy for 4 months now. He got out of a 5-year relationship a little over a year ago. He says he loved her and she walked out on him. I know if she knocked on his door today, he would probably go back. What I would like would be if he could get past these feelings for the "ex" and focus on me...even for a little while. Maybe…
I Can't Sleep With My Boyfriend
Hi Lucia, My boyfriend is impotent. That's okay with me as I'm not really into sex anyway. The thing is, he always wants to spend the night but I don't like sleeping with him. He snores, tosses, talks in his sleep and sometimes punches me in the back when he's dreaming. Why does he so much want to spend the night when there is no sex involved? Joan Hi Joan,…
Should I Keep Seeing This Guy?
Hi Lucia, I met a guy 5 months ago. I realized he was a player and I continued to play his game. I made a little mistake and we didn't talk for a while. After 2 months we picked up where we left off like nothing has happened (we didn't even mention it). This time, we just hang out but he wants to get to know me. I'm wondering what he is doing. Even though I…
I'm In Love With My Married Co-worker
Hi Lucia, I'm in love with my co-worker. He is unhappily married and does not love his wife. I’m separated from my husband. I started to like him 2 years ago. I told him, he was a bit surprised. We have not had sex yet, we just kiss. He is very nice with me, protective, and passionate when we kiss. Sometimes when I ask him to meet me, he makes excuses When…
My Boyfriend Is Being Hot & Cold
Hi Lucia, I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly three years. We both in our mid 20s and I’m the first girl he's had a serious relationship with. In January he asked me to marry him. I accepted and everything was fantastic. In August he told me he wanted to end it as he "didn't think he felt the same about me". 2 months later he begged me to take him back…
I'm Sleeping With My Ex
Hi Lucia, My ex and I broke up over a year ago because he wanted space and felt suffocated. He also said he wanted to focus on school and not on a relationship. The confusing part is that he still wants to talk and calls me almost everyday. We hang out whenever we have time and occasionally have sex. He says he does not want a relationship with anyone. What…
I'm Insecure About Other Women
Hi Lucia, What does a girl do when slutty girls look at her man? I have a fear of him falling into bed with this one hussy who works with us. I know I would be out of there but at the same time, shoot I don’t want it to happen! How do I curb my fears? How do I have confidence with this one night stand girl? How in the hell do I just ignore that "yucky"…
I'm Afraid He's Going To Break Up With Me
Hi Lucia, I am so depressed right now. I feel as though I have dated so many guys and have had my heart broken, or at least dented, over and over (even when I break up with them). Finally I feel as though I've met a man who hits all my checks on the list, and seems to really like me. We have only been dating a month or so, and I want to take it slow, but he…
He Hasn't Made A "Move" Yet
Hi Lucia, I have been dating a guy for a little over 2 months now. He has not shown me any signs of affection. I am not talking sex here - that can wait. I mean kissing, hugging, hand holding, touching or making out. I think he may be shy. I am not the outgoing type either, but I could be if I knew he was indeed interested in me and wanted to keep me…
When Should Women Have Sex?
Hi Lucia, I'm 30 years old, educated, independent, nice looking and still a virgin. Whenever I date, nearly every man brings up sex on the 2nd date and then doesn’t call back if say I want to wait for at least two or three months until we know each other better. I don't want to bond with anyone based on a hormone rush from sex. Recently, I dated a highly…
Why Can't I Find A Guy?
Hi Lucia, I am a chemist, fairly attractive and graduated at the top of my class at an Ivy League school. I want to have children but can’t seem to find a guy! The only guys who seem to be interested in me are other chemists or scientists, but I have no interest in them. They actually look as you would imagine them to look, which is not very attractive! My…
I Secretly Check His Email
Hi Lucia, I’m 31 years old, married to a 39 year old man for 4 years now. My husband’s previous relationship was with a woman 11 years older than him. She is a very nice lady, beautiful, funny and their relationship lasted for 4 years. He left her for me 6 years ago I’m envious that I don’t have the same experiences and the same confidence she has and I…
I'm Dating A Virgin
Hi Lucia, I am very interested in this guy at work. He is 22 and I am 25. He is a virgin and I am very experienced. For some reason I am extremely attracted to him, despite his mild nerdiness and lack of social skills. When I first started working at my job we went on a couple of dates. He seemed very interested in me and was spouting sexual innuendo…
When Should I Stop Dating Other Guys?
Dear Lucia, I have been single for about 5 months and I have no problem getting dates. Some lead to fascinating conversations followed by sweet kisses but most go nowhere. I have a few guy friends with benefits on the side, not guys I'd date, but for no strings attached sex and friendship (watching movies, occasionally venting or searching for advice). I…
He's Not Ready To Get Married
Dear Lucia, I've dated my boyfriend for 1 year and a half. We are Christians and have not had sex. We are not virgins, we both had other relationships and lovers before we met but we made a commitment to purity until marriage He told me he was not happy with his job situation and was desperate for a change. I got anxious since we had talked and fantasized…