Dear Lucia,
Would it be wrong to tell a guy I had one date with that I like him and find him attractive? Julie
Dear Julie,
Yes, it would be very wrong! You are hoping that by telling him you like him, he will like you in return. Sorry, it doesn’t work that way.
You need the 3 C’s: Confidence, control and challenge.
By revealing your feelings so soon, you are killing mystery and challenge. Guys need to feel as if they have won a prize. This is one of the resons why they are into sports and video games. They will not think you have high value if you are such an easy conquest.
You also show that you have no self-control, because you feel the need to show your “hand” right away. If you can’t control yourself at this stage of the game, he sub-consciously wonders how you will be able to control yourself with him in the future when things start getting more serious.
Not having self-control also shows a lack of confidence. Both sexes find a confident partner very attractive.
As you can see, by not following the three “C’s”, you will quickly eliminate any attraction on his part. Show you care, but don’t say it yet!
