Dear Lucia,
I want a boyfriend. Is that bad? I don't need one but I want one. I want a guy who treats me well and respects me; someone who I have a lot in common with. I tend to date jerks. Any ideas on where I can find a guy like that? Melissa I.
Dear Melissa,
Join the club. All women ultimately want someone who treats them with respect and with whom they have a lot in common. Yet, for the most part, we all go through a phase where we date jerks, bad boys and players. This seems inevitable. It’s like a fire we have to walk through in order to get to the other side.
What is the other side? Appreciating someone who is there for us, is actually nice to us, calls when he says he will and shows up for a date.
Why are you dating jerks?
The bottom line is, because you want to. It’s like asking: Why do I keep eating chocolate cake when I want to lose weight? When you finally get to the point where you have enough self respect and self love, you will stop dating jerks, stop eating chocolate cake, stop getting drunk, etc. Hopefully you’ll get to that point sooner rather than later.
