Dear Lucia,
I met a guy at a party and gave him my number. It took him a week to text me. Does that mean he’s not really interested? Dorothy
Dear Dorothy,
Actually, it probably means the opposite. There are certain dating coaches who are teling guys to wait 7 days to contact a woman when they get her number. Why? Because he will stand out from all the other guys that usually reach out within a day or two and the woman will be more intrigued.
Well, I don’t agree. I think there are other ways to stand out. When a guy waits that long, it sends out a big smoke signal that he’s interested but he’s playing games. Fine, let the games begin.
Here’s how you handle this situation. You met John at a party and he finally texts after a week. This is how the conversation should go:
John: Hey, it’s John.
You: John?
John: Yeah! We met at Chris’s party.
You: Oh, you’re the veterinarian!
John: No, I’m the lawyer.
You: Oh, I remember now. Hi. How are you!
This way, you let him think you weren’t sitting around wondering why he was taking so long to text you. See how it can backfire on him if you handle it this way?
There is of course always the possibility that he was undecided about whether to call and finally decided to try it or he could be seeing someone else and wrestled with the idea of whether he should text or not.
Any way you look at it, when a guy waits too long to text, it’s rarely a good sign. If he was intrigued with you, he’d wand to get in touch sooner rather than later. Proceed with caution.
