Dear Lucia,
I am in love with a girl I’ve been dating for a month. How do I make her fall in love with me?
I am 24 yrs old and I think she's a bit older than me. I invited her for lunch but she didn't show. I also invited her last Sunday and again she didn't show up. I tried her cell phone but she was not picking up. I was a bit down because we arranged to meet and she didn't show up.
How do I make her understand I'm in love with her? Derrick
Dear Derrick,
It’s very hard to convince someone of something that isn’t true. The truth is that you are not in love with her. I know it, she knows it and maybe somewhere inside you, you know it. You make be infatuated and obsessed, but you certainly can’t love someone after only one month. Love develops as a result of getting to know someone. You don’t even know how old she is!
Although it’s not right for her to stand you up, the reason she’s doing it is because you’re creeping her out. She’s doesn’t want to turn you down, so she pretends she’s going to see you and then doesn’t show up.
Even if you haven’t said, “I love you” to her, your actions and attitude are showing her that you are way too into her after only one month. You’re coming across as desperate and unrealistic and that is never attractive. We all want to be with someone strong. Someone who is willing to put up with being continually stood up is not strong. Are you sure you’re even dating?
If there is to be any hope for you, you need to back off immediately. Continuing to ask her out will only lead to her blocking your number. If she changes her mind, she knows how to get a hold of you.
