Dear Lucia,
I had a girlfriend who was not as into the relationship as I was. She broke up with me and that same day, I slept with my ex. Afterwards, I realized it was the wrong thing to do and I still wanted the person who broke up with me.
I told her I slept with my ex and she got mad and doesn't want to see me anymore. Should I have told her? Does she have a right to be mad since she broke up with me? Isaac
Dear Isaac,
My, my, my. What mind games we have here.
Should you have told your recent girlfriend you slept with your ex? No! However, you wanted to get back at her for breaking up with you, so you made the passive-aggressive move of telling her. You darn well knew she wouldn’t be happy about it.
Does she have a right to be mad? Everyone has a right to feel what they feel. The reason she’s angry is because you slept with someone else so soon. While women usually wait to have sex with someone else when they are dumped, men usually try to get over it by sleeping with someone else or drinking.
However, the moment she broke up with you, you were free to sleep with whomever you wanted to.
If she already ended the relationship, what does it matter that she doesn’t want to see you anymore? She wasn’t going to see you anymore anyway or was she?
Tell her that you were a free agent when she broke up with you, and if she wants to be mad, that’s on her. This will either make her want you back or never want to see you again. Only time will tell.
