Dear Lucia,
If a man is not satisfied with the sex life with his wife, then should he go for an extra marital affair with or without love? My wife is very cold and I have tried a lot to make her hot. She also doesn't control her figure. Rick
Dear Rick,
I don’t usually answer questions from married people; however, I know there are guys who are currently single and will one day be in your situation, so I will answer as a “preventative measure”.
When choosing the person you will marry, keep two things in mind: Choose wisely; treat nicely.
This means that if sex and fitness are important to you, pick someone for whom these two things are also a priority. If you are not compatible sexually and/or your partner is not disciplined with food or working out, then, not matter how “in love” you are, you don’t get married.
A relationship is like a garden. It needs to be tended to or it will die. Once you get married, instead of becoming complacent and taking the other person for granted, you should instead continue to act like their boyfriend/girlfriend.
I’m sure your wife wasn’t cold when she was your girlfriend (and if she was then you didn’t choose wisely). She’s unhappy with you and the relationship and you need to find out why. You also need to acknowledge your part in it. Once you start to work on any issues, you'll most likely find that she'll start to become "hot" for you again.
