Dear Lucia,
I am involved with a woman who blows up and nitpicks at me about everything. She does not want me to touch her - no sex, kissing, hugging or let alone sleeping in the same bed. She tells me that she loves me but I don’t know what to do when she is like this.
She beats down my confidence. It feels like I am walking on egg shells. Joe
Dear Joe,
Love is a verb. It doesn’t matter how often someone says they love you, if they don’t show it in their actions. She is withholding sex, being verbally and emotionally abusive and you have to tip toe around her. Gee, sounds like a match made in heaven!
Why is she behaving this way? Part of the reason is because she knows she can. She knows you're not going anywhere, because you’re still there putting up with it. If she was dating someone who she knew would never put up with that behavior, unless she has mental health issues, she probably would not behave that way.
You need to man up and tell her you will no longer put up with her abusive behavior. Inform her you will not see her anymore until she either adjusts her attitude or gets counseling. In the meantime, you may want to start dating other women who treat you well and appreciate you.
