Dear Lucia,
I met a woman online a while ago who lives in London, and I live in New York. We developed a friendship which turned into more. I finally met her in person in London several weeks ago.
All I can say is: fireworks! We felt very comfortable with each other. It was as if we have been together for 10 years. On top of that, our physical connection is incredible. Long story short we are in love with one another.
She has her life in London which is complicated and I have mine here which is no less complicated. I am planning on seeing her again for a month very soon. Very romantic yet very intricate...would love for it to work out but I know it will not be easy. What is your opinion? Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
I feel you. Meeting someone new, feeling fireworks and an incredible physical connection is like heaven on earth.
Long distance relationships are difficult to begin with, but when the person lives in another country, it’s even more complicated. An amazing first connection doesn’t always translate into a great relationship. Right now you have each other on a pedestal and think the other person can do no wrong. You think you’re in love, but love requires appreciation, and you don’t know each other well enough at the moment to really appreciate each other.
Let time be your guide. Being together for an entire month will give you a better indication as to who she is and what she is really about. If things are still great after that visit, one of you will have to eventually move to be with the other. Good luck.
