Hi Lucia,
I'm a 21 year old gay man. My boyfriend told me just a few days ago that he was bisexual and that he had a girlfriend. When he told me that I felt very sad because I really love him. But the problem is that he says he loves me and her.
My question is: DO YOU THINK SOMEONE CAN LOVE TWO PEOPLE AT THE SAME TIME? Frankie
Hi Frankie,
You ask a great question. First of all, you said your boyfriend is bisexual. Does his girlfriend know that? She has a right to know. Are they using protection? I certainly hope so.
You need to find out if his girlfriend knows he is bisexual. If she doesn’t, he’s lying to her. Neglecting to tell her is still a form of lying. Is this the type of person you want to be with? Who knows what else he may be lying about? Do you want to take that risk?
Secondly, you ask: Do you think someone can love two people at the same time. Man has attempted to answer this question since the beginning of time. The answer is: Does it really matter? Whether it’s possible or not, nothing changes. You still have a guy who wants to be with someone else besides you. Is that what you want?
Finally, you’re only 21 and I believe, too young to have a boyfriend. This is when you should be dating (though not necessarily sleeping with) different people to find out what you like and don’t like in a partner. You’ll also find out a lot about yourself. You’ll have plenty of time in the future for a committed relationship.
I’ve given you a lot to think about. Reflect on my questions and base your decision not just on how you feel about your boyfriend today, but on how you want your life to be in the future.
In the words of Deepak Chopra, “By realizing we can see ourselves in others, every relationship becomes a tool for the evolution of our consciousness.” Life is about learning, and you can either learn through joy or through pain. The people you choose to be in relationships with will either take you to the heights of ecstasy or to the depths of hell.
The choice is yours. Choose wisely.
