Hi Lucia,
My girlfriend and I are both 21. We are close to each other, more on the physical side, but it is limited to phone sex. She really likes it when I talk dirty on the phone at night and she masturbates to that.
I'm pretty sure that during that time she really wants me in her bed to do all the things I say to her, but when I ask her to have actual sex with me, she is a complete no-no. No amount of persuading would change her mind, but she insists on continuing this phone sex thing going. I want to take the next step. What should it do? Kombo
Dear Kombo,
Has she given you a reason as to why she won’t do it? Is it because of religion? Is she a virgin? If it’s neither one of those, then you’ll need to use reverse psychology. Constantly asking her to have sex when she’s already said no several times is not going to get you anywhere.
I would continue with the phone sex, but I would not ask her anymore. You could even say that you actually prefer “doing it” on the phone and are not that interested in having sex with her anymore. If she asks why, say that you don’t want her to do anything she’s not ready for.
If your phone sex is hot enough, trust me, eventually she’ll be demanding to have sex with you. Let me know what happens!
