Hi Lucia,
Tell me what’s wrong with me. I am always a good friend to a woman, but when I start loving her things always go wrong!! Mostly I am too honest and direct or too intense but what is the problem about that?
The other thing is I seem to always attract jealous and insecure women. Is that the consequence of being too honest and direct? I warn women that I am a good friend and lousy lover. Miguel
Hi Miguel,
Well, nothing like doing your own bad pr. You’re right, you are too honest if you are warning women up front, but no one does anything without a payoff. You are using that as a disclaimer so that when things eventually go wrong, you can say, “See, I told you”.
Honesty is not always the best policy, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. There is no need to express every thought that comes to your mind. That’s okay for a 3 year old, but it’s a turn off in a grown man. Sometimes, tact and diplomacy is a better policy. Women want to feel adored and cherished, and it’s possible your directness is doing the total opposite.
You ask what’s wrong with that and I say: Nothing, if you don’t mind being alone. Your approach hasn’t worked so far, so why not try something new if you really want things to change.
In terms of the jealousy and insecurity, unless a woman is a teenager or in her early 20s, has mental health or trust issues, she won’t become jealous and insecure unless you give her a reason.
Look at your words and actions and ask yourself if you are contributing to the women behaving this way.
