Hi Lucia,
I'm always confused as to why women have two totally contradictory standards for having sex with a man. Most women (when they meet your average guy who is interested in them) say they want to get to know you, and take it slow.
However, when this same woman meets her "fantasy man" (a wealthy guy, a powerful guy, the Italian Romeo with an accent) suddenly she is more that willing to have sex with him on the first date without any questions asked.
Why? After all, why can’t she take the time to get to know Romeo before jumping into bed with him, just like she told the average Joe? It’s very contradictory and does not make any sense to me. Furthermore, it’s disingenuous.
By the way, most men (including myself) do not have this contradictory standard for having sex with a woman; if I am attracted to the girl who works at the grocery store earning $10.00 an hour, I don't have a different standard for sleeping with her versus sleeping with a CEO or celebrity. Cheers, Sam
Hi Sam,
Congratulations, you’ve discovered the double standard for men! If there can be a double standard for women (if they sleep around they’re loose; if men sleep around, they’re just being men), then this is the double standard for men.
However, my experience has often been the reverse. A girl will sleep with a guy she doesn’t see as having long term potential sooner than she will with a guy she thinks may be a serious boyfriend or potential husband. This is because of the original double standard of not wanting to be seen as promiscuous by someone that may eventually become her boyfriend or husband.
In the example you mentioned, it’s obvious that these women are blinded by the wealth, power or accent, and don’t have enough faith in themselves to make the guy wait, as they normally would. They probably figure there’s a lot of competition for these guys, and they better do what they can to make sure they don’t lose them. This of course, usually has the opposite effect, but that’s a story for another day.
Yes, I know men don’t have a double standard when it comes to bedding women – after all, they’re just being men, right?
