Hi Lucia,
Online dating sucks! All the guys I've met show up dressed down, wearing baseball caps. A couple of them have been late. The last date I went on had bad breath.
It seems like the dates I had in high school and college were more put together than the ones I have been going out with.
They are always asking me where I want to go on the date. Shouldn't the guy be putting a plan together? Also, they are always giving me their phone number and telling me to call them. Call me old fashioned, but I think that's a turnoff.
They text and e-mail more than they even call on the phone anymore.
Are these deal breakers? Should I stop meeting guys online? Am I losing it? Jessica
Hi Jessica,
No, you’re not losing it. Many, many women have the same complaints.
Welcome to the "wonderful" world of modern dating. All the things you mentioned are certainly annoying, but they’re not deal breakers.
Here’s the solution: In your profile, be specific about the type of man you’re looking for by addressing the issues you mentioned in your email.
Here’s an example, which you are welcome to use:
"I admire a man who likes to impress his date by being on time and well dressed with fresh breath. I appreciate a man who likes to take charge and decide where we will go for our first date. I adore a man who believes in pursuing a woman the old fashioned way – by calling her and keeping text and email messages to a minimum."
By stating what you are looking for in a positive manner and using words such as admire, appreciate and adore, you come across as classy and confident.
Any man reading this will understand that you know what you want, and if they can’t live up to it, will probably move on to the next profile.
