Dear Lucia,
My boyfriend won't kiss me, and only wants sex about twice a month. How can I get him to want me more? Sandi D.
Dear Sandi,
You can't get someone to do something they don't want to do. They're either inspired to do it or they're not. Has it always been like this or has the situation changed recently? If this is how it's always been, things aren't likely to change. You need to decide if this is the type of relationship you want. If you don't have a high sex drive, then twice a month shouldn't be a problem.
If however, you need more sex, that's a different story. If it's been this way from the start, then your boyfriend probably doesn't have a high sex drive. If this is a recent development, then you need to ask him what's going on.
Also, the no kissing bothers me. It almost sounds like he's treating you as a booty call. You need to have a talk and you may eventually need to walk.
