Hi Lucia,
Can you please tell me why a man never calls when he says he will? This has got to be the most annoying thing EVER. You sit at home waiting for the phone to ring or even for a text but nothing. NOTHING. Why do guys do this? It hurts, guys, you know, it really hurts. You think you know a guy, you start even to like him. He says I’ll call you and he doesn't. Why do guys do this? Annie R.
Hi Annie,
Every woman has asked herself that question sooner or later. There could be many reasons. I decided to go to the experts for this one. Who are they? Guys.
I found the following posting on social media in response to a girl who was complaining about the same thing.
Brace yourself!
“This is sad but true… when I blow off a girl… it drives her insane and psycho and just knowing that I have her wrapped around my finger turns me off. I don’t have to give a damn thing but some b.s. words to keep her around when I need her. She lets herself get like that. I bet if you stopped with the texts and phone calls and acted like you could move on without him he would be kissing your ass in no time.”
Nice huh? There’s more.
Here are some comments from a national radio talk show that asked bad boys to call in, “Anytime you ice them (women), they just can’t get enough…These women are just absolutely stupid…It’s completely messed up.”
So, does this mean that all guys who don’t call when they say they will are players? No, of course not. It could also be low interest level.
You say you sit at home waiting for the phone to ring. People still do that? I thought cell phones ended all that. I understand what you mean. Why are you waiting for anyone’s call?
To quote you: You think you know a guy, you even start to like him. So, I’m assuming this is not your boyfriend but someone you’re dating.
Have people forgotten what the purpose of dating is?
It’s about finding out who the other person is and what they’re all about. If someone doesn’t call when they say they will, more often than not, they’re either playing, not that interested or unreliable. Does that sound like a good candidate for a boyfriend or husband?
The problem is that women percieve the silent phone as a personal rejection and think the guy didn’t call because there is something wrong with them. Instead, why not take the opposing point of view and realize it’s a big warning sign telling you they're either playing games or not that interested.
The answer to the eternal question, “Why didn’t he call” is always: BECAUSE HE DIDN’T WANT TO!
The real question is: Why didn’t he WANT to call? The answer to THAT question will determine whether you should continue to date him or not. The only way to know that is to stop listening to what he says and look at what he does.
