I Love Dating Older Women
Hi Lucia, I love dating or seeing older women. I love the way they handle themselves and look. 21 year olds are fun but it gets old. An active, older woman who likes to go out and can turn heads with a great cocktail dress and heels is the most attractive thing I can think of. I’d like to know why older women always ask why I like them and how come I am not…
When Should I Say, "I Love You"?
Dear Lucia, I've been dating a girl for about 4 months and I think I'm falling in love with her. How long should I wait to tell her? Shaun B. Dear Shaun, While you can’t put a timeline on love, it’s better to err on the side of caution. If you say it too soon and she doesn’t feel the same way, you probably won’t get the reciprocal response. What you’re…
How Do I Make Her Fall In Love With Me?
Dear Lucia, I am in love with a girl I’ve been dating for a month. How do I make her fall in love with me? I am 24 yrs old and I think she's a bit older than me. I invited her for lunch but she didn't show. I also invited her last Sunday and again she didn't show up. I tried her cell phone but she was not picking up. I was a bit down because we arranged to…
Does She Want A Break Or To End It?
Hi Lucia, I’ve been dating a married woman for 3 years. I’m also married.. The problem we are having is that she does not put too much effort into our relationship. The sex is great and we get along, but when we get into argument, she is verbally abusive. She tries to shut me down, doesn’t listen or look for solutions. It seems she’s trying to gain the…
How Do I Let My Ex Know I've Changed?
Hi Lucia, Just over a year ago, my sweetie and I broke up. We had been together for 5 ½ years and she was most definitely the love of my life and in my belief (and those of more than one psychic and intuitive), my soul mate or as some would say, one of them. The breakup wasn’t my choice and frankly, it was devastating to me. To this day, I’m still very much…
She Doesn't Want To Be Exclusive Anymore
Hi Lucia, I'm 37 and dating a lady that is 39. Over two weeks we went on 4 or 5 dates and we also hung out at each other’s houses for hours. We both agreed we wanted to take things slowly but we got intimate about 4 weeks into it. After that we decided to be exclusive and not meet or see anyone else. Three weeks later she says we need to slow down and get…
And Then She Slapped Me
Hi Lucia, I met a really attractive, intelligent woman at an art gallery. We had been talking for about a half hour, really seemed to develop a great rapport and had a tentative coffee date. Then, things suddenly went downhill when I commented that she had a “really nice, hourglass figure”. I thought she would take it as a compliment but instead she became…
I Ain't Saying She's A Gold Digger
Dear Lucia, I am a very successful 42 year old man in the business world and I am considered by most to be very attractive. I have dated many beautiful women whom I later found out seemed to have no chemistry for me. Do you think women accept dates with men they are not attracted to on a physical level? If so, don't you think it is a woman's responsibility…
I Was Just Using Her For Sex
Dear Lucia, My last serious relationship was with an old high school friend. It lasted a very brief four months. In the beginning I was so excited to have found my long lost friend that anything was possible. I thought this could actually work. On the occasions when we discussed our relationship, she always said, "It's not like we're boyfriend and…
I Think My Girlfriend Is Cheating
Hi Lucia, How can I find out if my partner is cheating if I am in a long distance relationship? What signs can I look for without looking like a fool? She has male friends and she isn't going to give them up. She insists there is nothing going on. However her behavior is strange because she goes to Walmart in the middle of the night after getting me out of…
Which Girl Should I Choose?
Hi Lucia, I dated a girl for about 4 months and then she came to me saying she is going to marry another guy whom she had known for 2 months in a long distance relationship. They planned to meet and live together but then they split up. Now the girl wants to see me again but I recently started dating another girl a month ago (we don’t have a commitment…
I've Given Up On Dating
Hi Lucia, I am 24 years old and I have gone through three rough relationships - the last one being the worst. I dated a single mother who cheated on me with her baby's dad. After this happened, it was over. It has been two years and I have not gone out with any women since. I basically gave up. I often think that I need a therapy. I see someone but I just…
Should You Compliment A Woman You've Just Met?
Hi Lucia, What do you suggest for how to talk to women? I was once involved with what is called "The Pick Up Artist" community, but a lot of it felt too fake for me. They talked about always asking women for their opinion on something that you may not actually care about, and not letting them know you're attracted to them since it gives women too much power…
How To You Deal With Someone Who Is Always Late
Hi Lucia, How should I deal with a woman who is always late? We met online and immediately hit it off. However, she was 30 minutes late for our first date, and continues to be between 15-20 minutes late for our dates. We've been dating for a month. J.A. Hi J.A., As someone who appreciates punctuality, I feel for you. When someone is late the first time, I…
Am I In The Friend Zone?
Hi Lucia, I met a woman online and when we first met in person, the love bug struck me hard-core, but I kept my cool. She said she did not want to get into a long-term relationship and was only looking to date, hangout etc. I can deal with that because I too date other women. She also said that she was not looking forward to more dates from men she meets…