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Dear Lucia,
I have been seeing this wonderful woman for about 9 months. For the last 6-7 weeks we have been talking on the phone several times a day and spending a lot of time together. I send her flowers once a week, and other days I'll put a flower or poem I've written on her car in the morning.
She recently expressed that she wanted to take a step back and slow things down a bit. I love her and have told her. She says she loves me also. Is she scared? Are things moving too fast? Am I about to lose this girl? If so, what can I do to stop from losing her? Rob J.
Dear Rob,
The answer to three of your four questions: Yes! Yes! Yes! Slow down Romeo. The fact that you've been together for 9 months and things started to change once the constant stream of flowers and poems began, means you're overwhelming her.
It's possible to feel two conflicting emotions at the same time. While we all yearn to be in a loving relationship, we also have the desire to be free. This is a human paradox you must always keep in mind.
What to do? Back off. Stop the flowers, poems, multiple daily phone calls. Eventually, you can start to do those things again, but only in small doses. Good luck.
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Dear Lucia,
It's been 4 months and I think I'm in love. She's taking it slow but she cares a lot (I know). Not sure how to approach this. Marq Q.
Dear Marq,
Why can't people just enjoy the moment, the situation, the relationship without having to worry about the "approach"? It's only 4 months. While that may seem like a long time to you, in the grand scheme of things, it's not very long at all. The fact that you say you "think" you're in love, tells me you're not. If you were, you'd know it. You may be on your way, but love is respect and admiration. It takes more than 4 months to fall in love with someone. Calm down and see what develops.
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Dear Lucia,
The last few girls that I've been with, I've found that when we've been intimate, the next time we hangout, they don't put out. But every time after this, they do. Why? Jon B.
Dear Jon,
How long are you waiting to be intimate? It sounds like you're rushing into it and the girl regrets it afterwards. She's giving you a non verbal message that she wants more than sex with you, by not "putting out" the next time. She's testing you to see how you'll respond – whether you'll be upset or accept it. She wants you to know she has more to offer than her body.
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Hi Lucia,
I've heard very attractive women sometimes complain it is difficult for them to meet decent guys. They claim that losers hit on them relentlessly, but other guys either assume they are taken or are intimidated by them. Is this true? Frankly, I think these women are looking for Mr. Perfect and write off everyone else as losers.
Lou
Hi Lou,
It sounds like an attractive woman has rejected you. Attractive women are constantly being hit on. They get attention everywhere they go. Everyone wants to meet them and talk to them. It's like being famous, but without the fame. Since they have so many options, they can afford to be pickier than most people. This can be both a blessing (able to pick from the cream of the crop) and a curse (always think the grass is greener on the other side).
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Hi Lucia,
When a girl asks you to drop by whenever you're in the area what is she really trying to say or express? What are the intentions she is conveying? How do you go about replying to her suggestion?
Tom
Hi Tom,
It means, "Drop by whenever you're in the area." She likes you! So drop by and ask her out.
